Monday, May 3, 2010


One of our MOB's (Mother of the Bride) emailed us with this question:

"What is the shower etiquette for having a destination wedding?  Can you invite people to the shower who are not invited to the wedding?"

Wedding etiquette says that you should NOT invite people to the shower who are not invited to the wedding.  However, as always, there are exemptions to every rule:

1.  If the bride and groom are going to have a wedding reception back home and will be inviting more guests, then it is appropriate to invite those who will be invited to the reception in your home town.  Otherwise, stay free and clear of inviting guests who will not be invited to the destination for the wedding.  It looks selfish and may offend people.

2.  If friends and/or co-workers who are not invited to the wedding throw you a shower, it is not in your control.  However, let them make the gesture, do not impose it on them or again, you may appear selfish and bridezilla-like.

Have you ever been invited to a shower but not the wedding?  How did it make you feel?  Do you agree or disagree with our answer?

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